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Career Tips: Career Lapses: Raw Talent, You, and Reality

November 3rd, 2011

By Gwendolyn M. Ward, Principal at FOOW?

A young graduate told me she was feeling like a failure in her first job after college. Her job lacked formal training, leadership, and guidance. Although she was trying to work through it by asking various people for help and working overtime, she felt exhausted and unsuccessful.

I asked her what this experience taught her professionally and personally? Was she going to continue the cycle, hoping it would improve? Or, would she take her talent elsewhere? She didn’t have many answers, because she was struggling between the reality of her job versus the concept of it.

“The Paper versus Reality” conundrum is where we can find many life challenges and lessons. Whether it’s a job, relationship, marriage, business deal or whatever else that fit in the people, place, or thing categories in our lives…sometimes, it just sounds better on paper:

- A friend volunteered as a safety leader on her job’s safety team. Her responsibility included keeping a clipboard with employees’ names for a headcount in an event of an emergency. Recently, when the DC area had an earthquake, her immediate reaction was to run from the building as fast as she could. After catching her breath, she remembered she was on the safety team and realized » Read more: Career Tips: Career Lapses: Raw Talent, You, and Reality

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Career Assessment: Career Directions: Anywhere But Here

August 1st, 2011

By Gwendolyn M. Ward, Principal at FOOW?

A friend of a friend was telling me about hating her job —how everything and everyone related to it emotionally drained her. She was bored, unchallenged, and a few other adjectives that meant she was leaving, resigning and didn’t want to work there anymore. She said she spent every free and not so free moment looking for another job.

I asked, “Are you Painfully Employed (PE)? Do you wake up every weekday with 101 reasons to call in… immediately followed by three motivating reasons to go in anyway?” She said, “YES, that’s it!” For responsible people– food, clothing, and shelter– defeat their 101 reasons most of the time. These basic motivating needs have a way of bringing reality to our wake-up call and purpose to our pain.

I understood her pain because I had been there, done that, and wrote about it. For me, figuring out the root cause of my discontentment increased my self-awareness and personal growth. It was a frustrating journey filled with many crossroads and valuable lessons about me and the ‘whys’ behind my decision making.

We can’t always quit when we experience discontentment, especially if we haven’t taken a step » Read more: Career Assessment: Career Directions: Anywhere But Here

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Laid Off After 40: Ageism…Between Truth and Consequences

May 12th, 2011

By Gwendolyn M. Ward, Principal at FOOW?

I spoke to a woman in her late 50’s who was humorously telling me about ending her 30-year marriage. Her husband had an affair and, after she confronted him, he asked her was she happily married prior to the discovery? She said, “Pretty much,” and he then confessed to having other affairs over the years; but since she was ‘pretty much’ happy, then why divorce?

She was stunned by his revelation and even more shocked when the majority of her friends agreed with him. Her friends told her that she had a great house, luxury cars, and three successful adult children. Why rock the boat? Why change at her age? Why throw away 30 years? Why start over?

She questioned why change in her 50’s was labeled as starting over. Why couldn’t it just be change? A divorce didn’t negate her successes prior to it; she was still a loving and supportive parent, caring daughter, and a successful executive. She loved her husband but not at the cost of her self-respect; he wasn’t her life but a part of it.

To her, the divorce was a change in course while moving forward. It was not an ending point where she needed to start over. In other words, she hired movers to move her husband out because she was moving on.  

I think about her when I am conversing with people over 50 who claim ageism when they are forced » Read more: Laid Off After 40: Ageism…Between Truth and Consequences

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