Posts Tagged ‘Dr. Carol Fleming’

Interviews: Projecting Self – Confidence

August 25th, 2010

Dr. Carol Fleming, Personal Communication Coach

You have credentials, you have experience, you have references, BUT you don’t speak with authority and assurance.  You hold your voice in the back of your throat.  Your face shows little movement and expressiveness when you talk. You may be aware of some tension in your throat.  It’s as if you are holding your cards close to your chest, fearful that someone will see what you’ve got.

Self confidence is immediately perceived to the extent that you energize your articulation and let your speaking be clearly visible on your face.  Now is not the time to mumble! By placing your speaking energy in the front of your face, you are illustrating your confidence in your talents, achievements and reputation.

Does this apply to you? You start your improvement by trying to honestly answer this question.  You must go outside of yourself to get the answer. (We always think we are speaking clearly!) Here are two ways of finding out if this is your problem.

1.  Do people frequently ask you to repeat yourself? If so, they are telling you that they are not getting enough information through their ears or their eyes to be confident that they have gotten your message.

While it is true that communication can be hindered by noise in the environment, a hearing loss in your companion, etc., the energy that you invest in your articulation can overcome those obstacles. » Read more: Interviews: Projecting Self – Confidence

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Networking: Talk to people to be part of the team

August 18th, 2010

Dr. Carol Fleming, Personal Communication Coach

I once had a speech client who admitted that he was a social isolate. This was revealed at the same time that he confessed that he never got the job advancement (despite having a Ph.D. from a prestigious university), was never included socially and certainly never got a girl. He spent much time telling me how others ignored him (and probably plotted against him!).

What was finally revealed was that:

  • He made absolutely no effort to talk to anybody himself.
  • He lived in his own bubble of silence.
  • He did not understand that this very behavior was a big ‘Go away’ to other people and that he would be perceived as rude.
  • He did not know that it was in his power and in his best self-interest to create the possibility of relationship with others.

His first homework assignment: to offer a ‘hello’ to someone every day. You laugh. But you must start somewhere. He was to actually make eye-contact with someone on the elevator and offer some verbal greeting, just one human being acknowledging another. » Read more: Networking: Talk to people to be part of the team

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